Love and Relationships
Psychic Readings with Michele
Accuracy and Free Will
Readings in General
How do you define a good psychic reading?
A good reading:
Combines accurate insight with practical advice;
Fosters hope and inspiration;
Highlights your gifts and abilities; and
Respects your free will and power to change.
How can you do a reading without the person present?
The faculty of intuition is not bound by space or time. Your eyes tell
you that two people aren't touching if they're in different rooms or cities.
On the physical level, that's true. But the intuition knows that, on a deeper
level, all people -- in fact, all things -- are always touching, always
The same is true with knowledge. The intuition recognizes that there
is no wall or distance between you and any knowledge important to you.
Another way of understanding this is by looking in a pool of water at
night. Even though the pool may be only ten feet in diameter, it manages
to accurately reflect the entire night sky -- the moon and every star. Every
person has a pool of intuition within. When you learn to calm its surface,
you can see the reflection of anything, no matter how far, simply by looking
As long as I have your name, your voice, your choice of words in a letter
or e-mail to focus on, I can see you. You are then as close as if you were
in the same room.
If you're psychic, why do I have to ask you any questions at all?
Shouldn't you already know my questions?
A good reading requires that we both participate. The more aware you
are of the issues and questions that you have, the more effective the reading.
Your mental focus helps guide my inner vision to pinpoint the information
you need right now. Without a focus to the reading, I will still receive
pertinent information, but not always in the specific area you hoped for.
Remember, you are not a passive participant in the reading.
If you're psychic, why haven't you made a million dollars in the stock
market or won the lottery?
Some psychics specialize in financial matters. I prefer to use my intuition
to understand myself and other people better, and to help people lead more
fulfilling lives. Predicting financial trends is a challenge unto itself.
I find the deepest satisfaction in unraveling the mystery of the human soul.
What's the difference between intuition and psychic ability?
The primary difference is one of degree. We commonly think of the intuition
as a strong feeling, instinct, or gut reaction. Intuition is usually more
accurate than we recognize, but it can sound fuzzy or unclear like hearing
someone talking in the distance. It's more of an impression than a precise
insight. Everyone has intuitive feelings, but as a culture we've trained
ourselves to ignore them.
Psychic ability, on the other hand, is the refined use of intuition.
It is more active and precise. Psychic insight requires you to focus your
intuition without the distracting clutter of random thoughts. You have to
train yourself to quiet your mental hustle and bustle in order to hear that
distant voice. (Actually, it's not so much distant as it is quiet.) This
requires practice, trust and, very often, training.
Can you reunite me and my loved one?
I would be interfering with the natural unfolding of your life. You are
in charge of your life; you sit in the director's chair. To take that away
from you is to tamper with your life and leave you powerless.
Personal growth requires individual effort. A psychic cannot make changes
or create your life for you. A psychic can help you gain perspective and
understanding, so you can direct your life with both eyes open.
There is a real misconception I see in this question: that a relationship
is an object, something you can own or possess. To answer this question,
it may help to redefine a relationship. A relationship is a rich interchange
between two people that offers each the opportunity to know oneself better.
Relationships are alive, they are talking mirrors that give us ongoing feedback.
To think that we can force a union denies the inherent spiritual qualities
of a relationship. A relationship is not a thing; a relationship houses
the soul of each person and creates an opportunity for spiritual awareness
and growth. When we recognize this, we understand that unions cannot be
forced without great confusion, struggle and despair.
Do you do love spells?
I periodically get clients who have paid someone to do a love spell.
I caution clients on this because you are giving up control of your life;
you are handing your life over to someone else. In reality this doesn't
work, you still have to contend with your own problems.
Asking for a love spell makes the assumption that power
is outside ourselves: "I can't do this, I'll pay someone else to." Where
does power come from? Power comes from within. The more we hand it over to
someone else, the weaker we feel. Love spells may leave you weaker because
you've diluted your own power.
Intent is very important in any ritual. If the intent is to manipulate,
we interfere with an intricate framework, the natural flow of life. Every
ritual should be aligned with God's will or Divine Intelligence. We don't
always know what is best for us. We need to consult and invite the intelligence
and wisdom of something beyond ourselves. When someone pays for a love spell,
that person is missing the opportunity to work with God. Real magic happens
when we align ourselves with God. We may not always get the results we expected,
but we will get the right results in accordance with a Higher Order.
Prayer is a good substitute for a love spell. If you still want a love
spell, accompany this with a prayer invoking God's will, not your own. You
are assured of better results. You can do your own prayer or ask someone
to pray for you. Make sure you always pray that the result be for the highest
good of all.
You said I would meet someone new. Why hasn't that happened yet?
If I say you will enter a new relationship in the Spring, this doesn't
mean I have somehow summoned this event into your life. For something or
someone to enter your life, you may find that you have to make a personal
shift. Life is an act of creation, a partnership between you and the Divine.
You have to do your part. Events don't just happen; you make them happen.
Insight must be followed with action. Along with the psychic insights
I give you, I may suggest one of the following to help you create the relationship
that you want. The list below represents areas in your life that might need
to be reinforced, strengthened and acted upon.
Timing is a state of readiness, not the ticking of the secondhand. We
shape our lives by an internal clock. How ready are we for a relationship?
What changes do we need to make first? What preparations need to be made?
You may have to let go of a hurt you experienced in a previous relationship.
You may need to strengthen your self-confidence and build your sense
of inner security. How can you attract a relationship if you think that
you don't deserve one?
Creating some time and space for a relationship may be necessary by
working less or managing your personal time differently. To have and maintain
a relationship, you must make room for it.
You may need to develop a new concept of what a relationship is. Some
of us hold onto an old idea, often a broken idea of what a relationship
is, based on our parents' or family's example.
Much to your surprise, you may discover that you really don't want
a relationship. The most important relationship you will have is with yourself.
You may need time alone to figure out what you want in your own life.
How can I make her or him love me?
We cannot make someone love us. I notice that people will try to force
things to happen in their lives, especially in matters of the heart. The
best way to attract love is to hold a clear idea in your mind of the qualities
you're looking for in a partner and to develop a good, loving relationship
Then, let God do his/her work. That is the real magic.
Also, recognize that God or Divine Intelligence doesn't move in a straight
line. God tacks or zig-zags like a sailboat. We assume too quickly that
our life isn't working. We get impatient. If we let go of our expectations,
and don't force the exact result, we step aside and let Divine Intelligence
do the work.
There is order in chaos. The world in which we live is
a complex, interactive network and Divine Intelligence orchestrates its movements.
What may appear as "out of order" in your life is God weaving a
new thread into your life's tapestry. Even though you can't see immediate
results in your life, it doesn't mean that God isn't working backstage right
this moment assisting your life's projects.
We invite struggle and despair by resisting the natural flow of life;
to fight this natural flow is to swim upstream. Let go of how you think
your life should be, and you step behind the force of creation. You move
with the stream and life becomes effortless. That's how miracles happen.
Readings with Michele Anderson
Were you born psychic?
I had a natural aptitude, the same way another person might with music.
But even if you're born with a natural musical talent, it can fade without
cherishing it and without practice. And even if you have less in-born ability,
with training and diligence, you can still learn to play the piano well.
The same is true with psychic ability.
What techniques do you use in your psychic readings? Do you use tarot
I am a clairvoyant: I see images (clairvoyance) and I hear words (clairaudience)
and interpret what I see and hear as it applies to you and your situation.
I do not use Tarot Cards or other oracles. While I respect these techniques,
they are not my primary way of tapping into information or guidance. I use
my inner vision.
Before each reading, I meditate, take some deep breaths and ask for guidance
and insight. I consult with spirit guides and God's Divine Wisdom to bring
forth information in accordance with the higher good.
If you see something really bad in my future, will you tell me?
I look at the circumstances that lead up to events as much as the event
itself. For example, if I see a car accident, I would suggest you drive
carefully and slow down in other areas of you life, as well. I probably
wouldn't say I see a car accident. Events don't stand by themselves. They
are connected to our patterns of thinking and the ways we treat ourselves.
Research suggests that it's possible to predict an accident
ahead of time. Increasing patterns of stress in job, family, home and finances
are noted in the lives of accident victims before the accidents occurred.
The "pile up" is already happening in their lives and the accident
The experiences in life that we label "bad" are
often gifts in disguise. Though they're difficult, they can serve as a wake-up
call to correct our lives and return us to a state of balance, allowing us
to pursue paths of ever greater fulfillment.
Accuracy and Free
If you foresee something in my future that I don't like, can I change
it? Is my future fixed?
I frame my answers in ways that don't limit your belief
in your own possibilities and ability to make changes. For a psychic to say, "You're going to
get fired within a year," without addressing the internal and external
conditions that would lead to that sets a mental trap for the individual.
Absolutes can harm by stripping away your inner confidence and reinforcing
the feeling that you're stuck.
Life has an open door policy. There are an infinite number of ways to
approach life's challenges.
This needs to be clear: You control your life. When I see future events,
they are the most likely results of the current momentum in your life. Momentum
is spiritual velocity, the course we set forth by our motivations, intentions
and beliefs. Any momentum you have created, you can uncreate and, ultimately,
change the final outcome.
How accurate are your readings?
Questions about accuracy are often based on the assumption that your
future is fixed. Let's say a psychic predicts that a major shift in you
career will occur in about a year. But when that year is up, you find yourself
at the same job doing the same work. You'd say the prediction was inaccurate,
Unfortunately, it's not always so simple. Accuracy is very important
in a psychic reading (and I am very accurate, even by the most strict definitions)
but, in your life, free will is supreme.
In my psychic readings, I don't usually see an unchangeable, predetermined
event. I see the patterns at work in your life and how and when they are
likely to manifest into certain events -- if your current momentum remains
So, at the end of the year, when you're still in the same job, you might
tell yourself that the psychic was inaccurate. But, then, two months later
that promotion still comes through. Will you remember the psychic's prediction
If that's true, why do some psychics promote themselves
as, say, "96%
I want to broaden the definition of psychic accuracy to
better reflect the nature of psychic insight. Accuracy must also reflect
the psychic's ability to offer insights that you can apply in a practical
manner. If I tell you, "Your relationship is coming to an end," without
explaining why, I have failed. Whether it's overwhelming job responsibilities
or a communication breakdown, why an event is happening is more important
than whether it will happen.
When you understand why, you can begin to make a change. Accuracy by
the dictionary's Latin definition means to attend to or care for. Accuracy
goes beyond just citing key details. It points to what needs attention in
Measuring psychic accuracy in strictly objective ways -- especially in
dealing with future events and life patterns -- isn't perfectly suited to
the nature of the work (see previous question).
Since our culture wants concrete numbers and measurements, many psychics
test themselves and describe their accuracy in those terms.
I judge myself on accuracy, but also by the positive impact on the lives
of my clients.
When you see something in my future, will you tell me when it will
Yes, I will usually give you a range of time (i.e. 3 to 6 months) as
The intuition perceives patterns and rhythms. We experience a change
of seasons in our lives like nature does. Time doesn't run in a straight
line on which you can pinpoint an event. I see events in relationship to
the cycles in your life. If you significantly alter those rhythms, your
life readjusts and events might occur sooner or later as a result.
Remember that the Divine has a keen sense of rhythm in helping to orchestrate
Why are some people psychic and others aren't?
Psychic ability is often referred to as a gift. But this can be confusing.
It's not that some people are given this gift and others aren't.
Psychic insight is available to all; it is an attribute of the soul.
Like reading, writing and arithmetic, it is a basic life skill. As easily
as we think, we intuit. Sometimes we complain that there are no guidebooks
on how to live a soulful, meaningful life. But, when you were born, you
were given intuition, a built-in guide and advisor. This is everyone's gift.
With practice and patient determination, you too can tap into this ability.
Why can't I see what you see?
There is no reason you can't. Many people have psychic insight, but they
don't recognize it or know how to translate what they see. The language
of the soul is imagery, and like learning a foreign language, it requires
study and practice.
I offer some good techniques for developing your own
abilities in the Psychic Development Department of the New
Vision On-Line Magazine and eNewsletter. Many other talented
psychics offer classes and training. Find out who is teaching in
Are psychics more spirtually advanced than other people?
Not necessarily! When consulting with anyone for any service, always
While psychic ability requires the understanding and application of certain
metaphysical laws, advanced spirituality is not really a requirement. I
think you'll find that most psychics are interesting, compassionate and
ethical people with a spiritual focus in life -- but not always! Psychics
are people too. We face all the life challenges everyone else does.
Don't turn off your discernment because you're talking with a psychic.