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Trying to decide which college to go to, the right job to take, or whether to move to the east coast?
Your intellect, your life sparring partner, attacks problems by digging and digging. Before you know it, your problem is buried and hiding in the sand. Instead of clarity, there is that dizzy visual blur and pounding headache, and you may have forgotten what the question is in the first place.
This is the perfect time for a pregnant pause. The pregnant pause is when your inner referee calls a time out. Within that moment is the promise of fertility, growth, opportunity, expansion, and solutions that are pleasing to your spirit.
Let it speak to you
When you do all the talking — in your head that is – then the intellect is in charge. You know your intuition is in the director’s chair when you hear a gentle, confident whisper instead.
When I’m preparing to do an email reading, I avoid diving in too soon. I wait a day or two to let a dream or a vision come to guide me. I don’t dictate the email reading, I transcribe the answer that has flowed through me.
The intellect will try to convince you to be economical when it comes to the emotional space you need in your life decisions. The intellect loves contrived solutions and confined spaces. It is a cubicle worker.
In order to receive inspiration, our heads can’t be capped; otherwise we box in the possibilities. Let yourself be an open funnel, so inspiration can pour in.
Let it simmer rather than boil
When you are too headstrong determined to figure something out, you are at a boil. To boil is to blindly, willfully, or angrily push forward.
There is a price to be paid when we let ourselves be bullied into a decision by ourselves or another person. We risk being a clone, a mere imitation, rather than our real selves. We lose our authenticity.
When you are at a simmer, you sit and wait, courting patience much like a hen sits on her egg. When you entertain the pregnant pause, you protect who you are, all of yourself, no part left out.
The gift of the pregnant pause is inner relaxation – that naturally leads to a solution. The spirit is designed for open spaces and breathing room. You know the solution is a good one when you rediscover your breath, and a sigh of relief.