Archive for: June 2010

Dazed and Confused: The Dangers of Remaining Undecided


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In my early 20s, I walked into the University of Kentucky to register for classes one balmy September day with the goal of majoring in Physical Therapy. On that same day, I turned around and left campus feeling undecided, dazed and confused. I really didn’t know what I wanted.

When we start college, it’s not uncommon to declare ‘undecided’ as a major. It can be an important time to sample a variety of classes, exploring interests and possible life pathways, before deciding on a specific focus. But eventually we need to become ‘decided’ before a career and adult identity can take shape.

If we’re really wanting results in our life, remaining undecided is not great for manifesting results. The more unclear we are about what we want, the more haphazard the outcome. When we are confused, we are submitting an order form to the Universe that is blank. Read more

10 Ways to Improve the Soul of Your Relationship


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Reverence is an attitude of honoring life.
Reverence automatically brings forth patience.
Reverence permits non-judgmental justice.
Reverence is a perception of the soul.
~Gary Zukav

I love this quote because it gets to the heart of what’s most important in a relationship: a deep respect for each other. When we respect each other, we honor each other; we bow to our partner daily. To respect our partner requires patience, taking it slow, and being attentive. We are patient with the highs and lows in our relationship.

Respect asks that we don’t engage in harsh criticism of each other. When kindness and appreciation are present in a relationship, we give our relationship the gift of longevity. The kindness feeds and nourishes the relationship.

Respect brings out the sacredness in a relationship, elevating it from personalities to souls, from the mundane to the profound. Respect allows the relationship to enter a spiritual domain. Read more

What Is Your Favorite Window?


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Windows rest, like our eyes, between the light inside and the light outside. ~J. Ruth Gendler Notes on the Need for Beauty

Let’s imagine windows as large eyeglasses; they expand our perception. Windows are metaphors for vision. When we pay attention to how we see, we gain depth of vision, and improve our view.

Do We Have Small or Large Windows?

Too many small windows, and we might feel like we’re on a ship looking through round submarine portholes. These windows are too narrow to allow for insight, and leave us feeling cramped. Solution: Create more internal space. Engage in spiritual study.

Too many large windows, and we’ll feel energy rushing in, bombarding our senses. Solution: Set boundaries and limits. Let’s choose what we focus on.

Windows that have screens help us with discernment; they ‘screen’ what to let in and what to leave out. Screens serve as protective filters.

The key is a balanced view, where everything seems in right proportion. It’s important not to gorge our senses, and yet not deprive them either. Beauty and nature have a lot to teach us. Observe the symmetry, the balanced view, in a Japanese garden, a mountain meadow, or a tree with birds among its branches.

How Much Light Do We Let In?

Do our windows open and close? Do our windows have thick or light window coverings? A shut window blocks light, air — life. When we open our windows and let the light in — we open — and what was closed off starts moving again.

Letting light in through our windows increases our joy, laughter, and wisdom. Our soul stretches, and we attract synchronicity and flow.

Crack open a stuck window, and we’ll feel the breeze on our skin, and the breeze says, “Wake up!” Our breathing shifts, and we relax.

Letting air in through our windows strengthens our ability to communicate, enhances circulation, opens the breathing passages, and invites magic and whimsy.

What We See Touches Us

There is an interactive relationship between the observer and the observed. Energy is exchanged, and there is a potential for healing.

When we watch a sunset radiate through our dining room windows, we feel its pastel orange rays touch our shoulders. We give the sunset our attention and energy, and the sunset bathes us in warmth and enthusiasm.

When we watch the stars flicker in the sky through our open windows, we connect with the stars and the wisdom of the night sky. The stars talk music and philosophy; they inspire us.

What are your favorite windows? How does the view speak to you?