Category: Relationships

Relationship Archetypes: A Mirror for Our Inner Development


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Relationships are at the top of the charts as the primary concern of a lifetime. Practically every day I talk with someone in a reading about a relationship they’re in currently or a relationship they’d like to be in. This includes family relationships, business partnerships, friendships, and lovers.

The types of relationships we are in reveals something about ourselves. This includes choosing to be alone – how we relate to ourselves in solitude. Every relationship reflects what we are working on, what needs healing, and what is important to us. Relationships are the consummate self-made workshop for working on oneself.

I find in readings that people will often complain about their relationship, and dwell on what the other person was doing wrong in the relationship. A relationship serves as a mirror for our inner development. Whatever we witness our partner doing in the relationship also reflects a pattern in ourselves.

I’ve noticed some common relationship archetypes in my reading practice. Read more

You Like Me! You Really Like Me!


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Life is like the dating game, only the rules have changed.

You remember as girls — when we used to sit by the phone for hours –waiting for the guy to call, thinking does he love me, will he call me. I remember those days of waiting for the guy to call. Oh, the waiting, the wondering, and the wishing.

We all want to be like Sally Field accepting her Oscar. We want that moment when we get to finally shout in relief: “You like me! You really like me!” Read more

Celebrities Teach Us to Dream a Bigger Dream


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I recently watched Alicia Keys and Ruby Dee on the Sundance Channel program Iconoclasts. Listening to the young singer and the veteran actress and activist talk, I was struck by their power, wisdom, and beauty. Even when Alicia Keys speaks, her voice sings with uplifting soul. She says a prayer before stepping onstage, and her presence radiates that deep dedication. Ruby Dee packs all the passion of her many years as an activist when she recites one of her poems; her voice says let’s move up, let’s move forward, together, let’s do it, now.

Ruby Dee just received an Academy Award nomination as Best Supporting Actress for her role as “Mama Lucas” in the film American Gangster. She is a young 83!

The Arts: A Cultural Dream Space

Movies, television, music – all the performing arts – create a space in which the human experience is reflected back to us. The arts are a cultural dream space. Read more