Category: Spiritual Healing

12 Traits of Narcissists

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A client from California who is a visionary artist introduced me to this subject and its importance to all kinds of relationship dynamics. She mentioned this quote too.

“Cherish those who seek the truth but beware of those who find it.” ~ Voltaire

A narcissist is the classic know-it-all. They stand at the podium displaying their ideas and themselves without self-reflection. The narcissist is entirely self-focused. In every situation, narcissists only identify with their desires.

Leaders are especially vulnerable to narcissism: CEOs, high government officials, church leaders, etc. Narcissism is more widespread than we realize.

Narcissists, at their worst, are predatory. Because their goals are all they pay attention to, every person and situation they encounter is either a stepping-stone to use to their advantage, or a hindrance to forcefully overcome.

Narcissists grab power for themselves while promoting powerlessness in those around them. They are always convinced they are doing what is right despite the harm they inflict on others. Read more

Pain: the Demanding Inner Voice

Pain is “highly charged energy.”~Reginald A. Ray

Pain is a spiritual resource. The body is your United Nations. The body will speak even when you withhold your feelings. Think of pain as the inner voice demanding to be heard. The way to heal pain is to give voice to your core feelings.

This is the formula:

pain = energy + emotions = intuition

Feelings and emotions are intuitive messages. They signal what needs to be changed, reorganized, or remodeled. When we listen to emotions as wisdom, they bring us back into alignment, a balanced equilibrium. We find center.

Don’t just ignore or suppress pain. Think of pain as a call for a spiritual tune up rather than just a persistent ache.

Do any of the following sources of pain strike a chord?

  • Breast pain: Rant, vent, and vocalize anger. Give spaciousness and understanding to feelings, especially the strong and scary emotions.
  • Shoulder pain: Lighten the load. Express the need for shared responsibility. You don’t have to do it all.
  • Back pain: Express the need for more support. Lean on others. Stand up for yourself. Stand your ground.
  • Head pain: Give yourself permission to express creative, intuitive, and sexual energy. Anchor in lower body. Walk barefoot on the grass.
  • Heart/Chest pain: Express the need for love. Practice giving and receiving. Don’t rush through life; relax into natural life rhythms.
  • Full Body pain: Shift old roles to a new identity. Lawyer to Peace Activist. Mother to Business Owner. Accountant to Stage Performer.

Your pain is the breaking of the shell that encloses your understanding.~Kahlil Gibran

Be Your Own Health Advocate: Accessing the Inner Physician

Because our health care system is for profit, we have to be strong and informed advocates for our own health. Even though there are many doctors and healthcare practitioners who are trying to do genuine good, the underlying system is always looking out for its own interests – money. We have to watch over and protect our own health.


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Most importantly, we have to be engaged in the process of protecting and maintaining our own health. The most important person on your healthcare team is YOU. Read more