Blog Etiquette: How To Share Comments and Get That Community Band Sound

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Comments are meant to be a good conversation, and good conversation begins by setting the tone.

I’ve studied African drumming for several years now, and there’s a word we use when the group loses track, and that unified sound crumbles into a cacophony of disjointed beats: a “train wreck.”

Remember: This blog is an ensemble. Spamming, shouting, flaming and the like will lead to a train wreck, and throw us all off balance. We want to keep to a solid groove.

To get that smooth band sound, here are some simple guidelines:

  • Stay on topic. If we’re talking about lucid dreaming, then where you got your new scuba gear won’t fit. Dear clients, if you want talk about your new relationship or new job, don’t post here, please send me an email directly:
  • Be real. Have a real email address. We want get to know you, so don’t come in disguise.
  • Add value. Comments like “That’s so cool.” are too vague. Make a suggestion, an observation, ask a question, or share a story.
  • Keep it clean. Don’t stuff your comments with keywords or multiple URLs. Keep your signature brief.
  • Use criticism well. Start with a positive comment. Then, blend in your idea. Healthy criticism adds spice and doesn’t spoil a good conversation. “Have you considered…?” sounds better than, “That sucks!” Doesn’t it?
  • Shouting, spamming, flaming, cussing, cursing, racist or homophobic remarks will get you kicked off this blog. Comments like that may be removed, deleted, or blocked.

    The problem with spamming, flaming, or prejudiced remarks is that the person’s audio is turned off; they’re not truly listening. When we listen, we know how to blend in, and we know what to say in an authentic voice. When we hear the voice of another, we are changed.

  • The last and most important blog comment guideline is: Listen well.

There is more than a verbal tie between the words common, community, and communication…. Try the experiment of communicating, with fullness and accuracy, some experience to another, especially if it be somewhat complicated, and you will find your own attitude toward your experience changing.

— John Dewey

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