Archive for: March 2016

There is No Peace Without Vigilance

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are powerful
forces of nature.

they are destruction.
they are nourishment.
they are flesh.
they are water.
they are flowers
and bone.

they burn. they cleanse
they erase. they etch.

they can either
leave you

or brimming
with home.

~ Sanober Khan

In the 80s, I lived in Kentucky with my first husband. I remember eating dinner with his family, and repeatedly, his father would tell racist jokes. No one said anything about the disrespectful tone in his language. We even had a psychologist at the table, his sister, and she said nothing. I regret not having said anything.

The dinner table in our homes and the dinner table on the political stage are no different. It’s the same dining table.

Decades later, we have Donald Trump sitting at the Republican’s candidacy table, shooting verbal barbs at Muslims, immigrants, the disabled, and others. What’s disconcerting is there must be a no-holds-barred agreement about what can be said or not said. Otherwise, Trump would have been reminded of some standards of communication, and asked to adhere to a set of principles. Since his words set a tone for the nation and the world, the reminder would have been immediate.

With no action, no reminder of any principles of speech, a negative model imprints for parents, teachers, corporate leaders, young people, etc. that abusive language is allowed.

We aren’t standing up for respectable standards of speech. The precursor to violent events: Words that condemn others, and discount their point of view. There is a build-up, a history of harsh words that are exchanged. Words are the first bullets. Read more

12 Traits of Narcissists

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A client from California who is a visionary artist introduced me to this subject and its importance to all kinds of relationship dynamics. She mentioned this quote too.

“Cherish those who seek the truth but beware of those who find it.” ~ Voltaire

A narcissist is the classic know-it-all. They stand at the podium displaying their ideas and themselves without self-reflection. The narcissist is entirely self-focused. In every situation, narcissists only identify with their desires.

Leaders are especially vulnerable to narcissism: CEOs, high government officials, church leaders, etc. Narcissism is more widespread than we realize.

Narcissists, at their worst, are predatory. Because their goals are all they pay attention to, every person and situation they encounter is either a stepping-stone to use to their advantage, or a hindrance to forcefully overcome.

Narcissists grab power for themselves while promoting powerlessness in those around them. They are always convinced they are doing what is right despite the harm they inflict on others. Read more

Courage can change the course of history!

“I am a symbol.” ~ Rosa Parks, Mother of Civil Rights Movement
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